the power in striking a balance between listening to advice and trusting your own intuition.
Here’s the thing: Everyone’s self love journey can look different.
Which okay, that’s obvious. BUT I feel like sometimes I need a reminder that certain healthy practices for someone else isn’t a healthy practice for me.
I know myself better than anyone knows me. The good, the bad, the ugly. If I need to, I know how to hide how badly I’m doing so others can’t see. If I need to, I know how to show off how well I’m doing for others to see the progress.
The advice someone can give you, based on the snippet of what they get to see in your life, isn’t always the best advice for you because you know your truest self all 24 hours of the day.
When to listen to advice vs trusting your own mind
I love when my friends give me advice. It always comes from a place of love and/or worry, so I know they have my best interest at heart. Most of the time, it’s advice I needed to hear. But there are times when I’m left questioning everything. I’ll always be a fan of brutal honesty, but sometimes that honesty is scary. Sometimes I’m not ready to hear it or make the changes I know will be beneficial for me.
It’s important to do some critical thinking when you receive advice. And two things can be true at the same time: you can love yourself enough to trust your mind and opinions when it comes to your struggles or troubles AND you can love yourself enough to listen and lean on others who can offer help when it comes to your struggles or troubles. But let’s dive further into that.
Here are some examples of self love:
trusting yourself
knowing when to follow your own intuition
not always seeking validation from others
Here are some other examples of self love:
leaning on others for help when you need it
opening up to family and friends about your life
surrounding yourself around people who want the best for you
I think it’s about striking a balance and becoming self aware to when and how you incorporate certain pieces of advice in your life.
I used to be so dependent on everyone’s advice and what everyone thought about me and constantly needing advice and unspoken approval before I did a lot of things and etc. Now I think I’ve perfected asking and being open to advice and commentary without always doing what people suggest. I incorporate it into what I’m already thinking.
I’ll admit I have some work to do when it comes to this though. But there’s power in doing both and knowing how to balance advice and intuition.